Can you really text your way back into his heart? Using the techniques in the Text Your Ex Back program, thousands of women all over the world have rekindled their lost relationships. And for me, this was the best program that helped me to truly understand what went wrong in my relationship.
This article is the second part of my extensive review of the Text Your Ex Back program. Be sure to read Part 1 which covers all the steps and modules of the program.
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I learned two critical lessons from this program:
- You need time. Waiting 30 days before contacting him is crucial – and hard.
- Sending powerful, emotionally-charged texts can rekindle his feelings for you.
So, why do you need to wait? By expanding on the core lessons, you’ll quickly learn why waiting is so important. I’ll share some Text Your Ex Back examples with you too, so you can get an idea of what type of text messages by Michael Fiore you’ll be sending.
Getting Yourself Together & The 30 Day Rule
One of the key concepts that the Text Your Ex Back program stresses is avoiding contact for the first 30 days after your breakup. And it’s so important to heed the author’s warning here. No matter how hard it is. Put down that phone!
Ladies, I know how hard it is to avoid your ex. But this is one of (if not the) most important parts of the process. You need to wait 30 days before contacting him. That’s it – bottom line. The breakup is still too fresh. You still have too many wild emotions flying around to really make meaningful contact with your ex.
Just think about it – do you really have anything thoughtful to say? At this point, you’re probably still fuming.
I made the mistake of contacting my ex during the first 30 days, and you know what happened? The two of us just went back and forth throwing blame and anger at each other. We were still so hurt about the breakup. The wounds were still healing. Trust me, I learned the hard way that waiting is the only thing you should (and can) do. Don’t make the same mistake as I did.
Don’t blow your second chance to make things right.
So, what do you do during the 30 days of no contact?
Work on you.
Michael Fiore (the author of the program) stresses the importance of taking time for yourself. Pamper yourself. Get into shape, and spend some time on your mental and emotional well-being. Get out there and date other people. Go out with the girls. Get your confidence back.
Start being awesome again.
To get a taste of what the no contact rule is about, I suggest reading my comprehensive post on this amazingly simple, yet highly effective concept.
Aside from working on yourself, you’ll also use this time to read through the program’s second module to better understand what went wrong in your relationship.
Understanding Relationships and Where They Went Sour
Now that you’ve solemnly sworn off contact, you can start your journey to understanding what went wrong. This is where Module 2: Dumper and Dumped comes in.
Dumper and Dumped calls on you to ask yourself one really tough question: Why did you break up – truthfully? You need to be brutally honest here, and that can be tough – especially if you were the one who was dumped.
If you were dumped (like me), the reason behind your breakup will be pretty clear after reading this section. The author goes through a list of 7 reasons your ex might have given you for the breakup and what those reasons really mean. All the classics are on the list, but there are also some that will really add some insight, including:
- It’s not you, it’s me. (We’ve all heard that one before)
- Our relationship isn’t going anywhere.
- You don’t appreciate me, or I can’t relax.
- I found someone else.
And the author talks about the other side of the table too (i.e. you did the dumping). You’ll gain some insight into why you ended things – the real reasons. At the end of the day, you’ll better understand yourself and your past relationship.
Admit it, it’s hard to be honest, but it’s so important to work through the process. This program even has worksheets to help you work through your thoughts. If you face the pain now, you’ll have a better chance of winning and building a stronger relationship, whether it’s with your former flame or a new partner.
After you’ve had some time to cool off and contemplate what went wrong, you can start using text messages to get your ex back with Text Judo. Don’t worry. You’ll need to work through modules 1 – 4 before the texting starts.
Mastering the Art of Text Judo
What is Text Judo anyway? This is the cornerstone of the Text Your Ex Back program. It teaches you how to craft text messages that will break the ice, rekindle old emotions and give your old relationship a fresh start. After mastering these techniques, you’ll be able to throw your words around like a true judo master.
The principles behind Text Judo are:
- Texting is the most efficient and powerful way to communicate. You are in full control to craft the perfect message and send it at your own comfort.
- You use what’s left from your relationship and harness the energy (positive or negative) into positive emotions you can mutually benefit from.
You’ll know how to respond to any situation over text and turn any emotions your ex has into positive results. Best thing is that Michael Fiore provides plenty of free examples on how to text your ex back.
There are five phases of Text Judo, and each phase corresponds to a certain type of text.
The 5 Phases & Text Judo Examples
1. Let the Contact Begin – Across the Bow Texts
Across the Bow texts are all about breaking the ice and initiating contact with your ex. How do you do this? With the G.E.A.R. method. Let me explain:
- Gently: Keep it light and simple. Now’s not the time to dredge up any emotions.
- Establish: This step is all about initiating contact and setting up the foundation for future work. In other words, don’t start asking your ex to meet up or talk. In fact, don’t even bring up your past relationship.
- Affirmative: Always send positive texts. The goal here is to get rid of the negativity and start over. You can’t do this if you’re sending negative messages filled with anger or blame.
- Rapport: Inspire conversation. Don’t just send meaningless texts, or worse, bombard your ex with messages. Send him messages that he can respond to.
Don’t ask him to get together. And remember, this is not a booty call, and you won’t be able to fix your relationship with just these initial texts. Ladies, you’re setting up the groundwork for a stronger, better relationship with these texts.
Here are some Across the Bow text examples to give you an idea of what kind of messages you’ll be sending:
If your ex responds in a positive way, you can start sending a few Best of Relationship texts. These texts bring up positive past memories. Taking a trip down memory lane will help him remember the good times you shared. You need to be careful here, though. Only send these texts if he responds positively to your initial messages.
Here are some great examples of Best of Relationship texts:
Or a little sneaky trick to get your ex to remind you of an experience. Bet you he’s wondering why you’re asking.
2. Test the Waters – Intimacy Booster Texts
The test phase is all about testing the waters with Intimacy Booster texts. Mike calls this phase “planting the seeds”. These texts are designed to create a feeling of intimacy between you and your ex. The key is to show him support. Let him know that you still care.
Maybe your ex is going through a tough time, and you want to let him know that you’re there for him. Or, maybe his mom’s birthday is coming up, and you want to remind him. These texts drop little hints that you still care and remember things that are important to him.
3. Validate Your Ex’s Feelings – Emotional Honesty Texts
Phase three – validation. It’s now time to stop playing games and really let him know how you feel. Emotional Honesty texts will validate your ex’s feelings, but they’ll also create incredible intimacy. But here’s the catch – you have to be brutally honest. It’s time to lay all of your cards on the table. And ladies, being this honest can be tough.
It’s time to really let him know what your heart is feeling. There are a few ways to do this:
- Appreciation texts. Tell him what you appreciate about him. For example, “I really appreciate how you were there for me when my grandmother passed away.” Let him know that you’re grateful he’s in your life. A little gratitude goes a long way.
- Compliment texts. Compliment him, and be confident about it. Here’s one of my favorite examples of Michael Fiore’s text messages that works really well: “I’ve always loved your hands.” It’s so simple, but so powerful.
- “What I Miss” texts. Let him know what you miss about him, and be specific. Use sights, smells and sensory images to really bring those memories back to life.
- “How I Feel” texts. Tell him how you feel. These are tricky. You need to be confident, and you need to be simple. If your message stinks of desperation, you may turn him off – for good. Here’s a great example of this type of text: “It’s funny, but sometimes I really crave you. I always felt so calm and safe around you.”
Don’t let these texts scare you. Being honest is difficult, but he needs to know your true feelings. He’ll respect you more for that.
4. Translate Your Emotions – Green Eyed Monster Texts & Attraction Texts
Now it’s time to translate those emotions into attraction and closeness using Green Eyed Monster Texts and Attraction Texts.
We all know how powerful jealousy can be. We want what other people have, and we get really protective when other people try to take what’s “ours.” Green Eyed Monster, or GEM, texts use jealousy in a positive way, but your timing has to be right and you need to be at least a little subtle about it. Remember, you’re sending these texts to get his attention – not make him angry.
Here’s a great GEM text example to really understand how this all ties together:
See how subtle, but powerful this message is? You’re letting him know you were out with someone else, but without throwing it in his face. And let’s be honest – he’s going to assume you were out with another guy. At this point, his old protective instincts will kick in, and he’ll start wanting you even more than he did before this stage.
You will be getting right into his mind without him even realizing it.
Making him jealous will rekindle his attraction for you, and once this happens, you can start sending Attraction texts. I’ll warn you, though, these are text messages that will make him want you. You need to make sure that you send these at the right time, and you need to keep it virtual. Bring up a sexy story. Remind him of a sexy characteristic that you love about him.
5. Connect the Dots – Seal the Deal
At this point, you’re ready to seal the deal, and make the move from virtual (texting) to physical (going on a date).
But before we talk about moving onto dating, there’s one thing that needs to be stressed here.
DISCLAIMER: Text Judo is not about manipulation or tricking your ex into getting back together. If your ex is truly over you, there may be no hope for your relationship. But if your ex still has even an ounce of feelings for you, this system will work. The messages you send will be powerful, and they’ll bring back old memories that will rekindle his old feelings for you.
Moving from Virtual to Physical
Once you’ve reached the final phase of Text Judo, you can finally move from texting to dating. Waiting wasn’t so hard, was it? Here are some tips to help with the transition:
- Try to get him to make the move. This entire system is so much more effective if he decides that he wants to see you.
- Keep things simple and casual. Meet for coffee or lunch, and don’t try to be romantic. Just get together and talk.
- Don’t act as if you’re going steady. If he wants to go out on another date, fine. But don’t assume another date is on the table.
The texting doesn’t end after your first date either. Sending a powerful post-date text will help move things along. You’ll find plenty of free examples in the Text Your Ex Back program that you can use to seal the deal and move forward with your new relationship.
A Genuine Program Every Step of the Way
The Text Your Ex Back program is the most thorough and detailed “get your ex back” program I’ve read. If you follow these techniques and really have an understanding of what went wrong in your relationship, this program will help you start building a new relationship with your ex.
Virtually every step of the way, you’ll find detailed and vivid examples that make you scratch your head and say “why didn’t I think of that?” From the very start, your hand is held as you learn how and why to apply the no contact rule to finally get yourself back.
After working on yourself and regaining your fierce attitude, you’ll be able to send a powerful across the bow text that will knock him off of his feet. Text Judo really gets you into the mindset of what to say and when to say it. With the provided examples, sending texts will be almost intuitive.
Ready to reel him back in?
You only get one “love of your life”. Don’t let him slip away.