Updated: October, 2019
Do you know what to say when talking dirty?
If you’re like most women, you cringe at the thought of telling him how good he feels inside of you – I know I do. But, talking dirty to your man is one of the most stimulating, easy ways to give your relationship that extra little spark you crave.
I know, the thought of talking dirty can be intimidating. You probably don’t know where to start. If you want to explore this idea, I’d suggest reading my review on a program called the Language of Desire to learn how to talk dirty the right way.
But let me tell you one key thing that dirty talk will do: get him absolutely entranced with you. Those naughty words show off your self-confidence, make him feel special and take the sexual experience to new heights.
I’m going to show you how to “sex talk”, so you’re the only woman on his mind when he goes to bed.
With these techniques, you’ll learn:
- How to become his addiction using just your words.
- Things to say when talking dirty.
- How to get your fantasies fulfilled.
The Boiled Frog
I know what you’re thinking, “I’m not boiling a frog!” And don’t worry, you won’t be. This technique allows you to slowly transition into dirty, sexy talk so that the both of you are comfortable using 3 phases:
Phase 1: Starting slowly, phase 1 gets the party started with playful texts and making him feel good.
Phase 2: The second phase turns up the heat and leaves him wanting more with flirty texts that aren’t quite Rated R just yet.
Phase 3: This is where the sexy, sex talk begins. Phase three is raunchy, sexy and tells him exactly what you feel.
Confused? I’m not done just yet. Let’s take a quick look at examples of talking dirty to a guy using the Boiled Frog approach:
- I’m crazy about your beard. It makes you look hot.
- I’m blushing thinking about you having your way with me.
- When you come home tonight, I’m going to rip your pants off.
These are just examples of how you can start your boiled frog schedule. I was taught to do this over a 21 day period from the Language of Desire guide and slowly ease in before making him go wild with excitement.
Dirty Talk for Singles and Dating
There are a lot of things to say to a guy to turn him on – especially when you’re single. The trick is to not scare him off. While men love when you’re naughty and playful, you want to maintain your dignity and start building trust.
Don’t worry, you’ll be able to turn up the heat soon.
Before you tell him “Damn you turn me on” and leave your wild side out for him to reveal to the world, you need to take a second to yourself. Can you trust him with your naughty desires? If not, you don’t want to put yourself out there only to be hurt.
A good way to break this cycle is to become friends and take it a little slow at first. You want to get to know him before you text him about “how you can’t wait to taste him tonight.”
The one good thing about dirty talk is that it doesn’t need to be:
- Filled with fantasies
You can maintain your dignity and still make him think about you.
Talking dirty during sex is easy, but how do you do it when you’re single or you just started dating?
- Be a littler vague. Stop filling my mind with naughty thoughts.
- Be a little daring. You don’t know all the naughty things I want to do to you.
Then, when you’re totally comfortable with him, you can start bringing in the one thing he cares most about: his penis.
See? There are sexy things to tell your man – or your man to be – that will push all the right buttons.
Does your man fulfill your desires? I know that mine didn’t. He was oblivious even when I told him straight to his face time and time again. Why? He didn’t pay attention. I wasn’t pushing the right buttons to get him fully entranced with the conversation.
This is what Lust Mirror is all about – getting him to pick up clues that you like what he’s doing.
Sure, you’ll learn exactly what he likes too, but let’s focus on you for once, starting with a perfect example of what never works.
- I really liked that new way you used your tongue last night.
- It felt AMAZING!!
It seems pretty straightforward – right? Well, you didn’t play off of his emotions. Using Lust Mirror, you would do something a little more fun and a heck of a lot more manipulative, in a good way. You’ll create a story filled with passion, excitement and hints of how to make you feel good.
- You: I walk into the bedroom, kiss your lips and suddenly drop my towel.
- Him: I stand there shocked pulling your lips into mine.
- You: I push you on the bed and tell you that it’s time to please me
From here, you would exchange lines making it more passionate, but there is a trick: you need to actually tell him what he’s doing right or wrong.
Maybe you like it when he flicks his tongue harder, slower or faster. In this case, you would say:
- It feels so good, but I want you to:
- Push your tongue harder into me.
- Swirl your tongue around faster.
You get the hint. Why does this work? Well, you’re playing off of his subconscious. The next time you’re in bed together – or not – he will remember these little queues and start to incorporate them in the bedroom.
It’s the perfect trick that he will never pick up on.
The best part is you can do this with oral, sex, foreplay or even with kissing and cuddling. Try it out. I know you’ll love it.Y
You’re just breaking the ice on how to talk dirty to a guy. Who knew that words could put limitless power in your hands? With words, you can have him wrapped around your pretty little finger and get him completely, utterly addicted to you.
If your relationship’s gone stale, sprinkling in a little dirty talk will bring the heat back to the bedroom. Every naughty word you whisper will make you look more confident in his eyes, make him feel special and heighten the sexual experience.
Wondering where I learned all of this? A little program called Language of Desire helped me go from timid to a dirty talk expert.