Updated: September, 2019
I know you’re wondering if your ex is still thinking of you. Is the guy who broke your heart giving you mixed signals?
Perhaps he’s not over you but you’re not sure if those hints are real. Your ex boyfriend keeps texting you and you wonder if you should text him back or what he’s up to (by the way, the Text Your Ex Back program is a great guide to help you text the right messages to get your ex to respond).
So does he want you back or is he playing mind games? What does he want from you?
They’re all over the place, It’s nerve-racking, isn’t it?
Still, I know what you’re going through, I’ve been there. You have a relationship end and then suddenly, out of nowhere, your ex starts acting like he’s your best friend. It’s confusing, isn’t it? You wonder, “Does he still love me?” or “Is he just being nice out of his own guilt?”
It isn’t always clear what your former flame is up to. However, there are some signs that show a pretty good chance that your ex wants to reconnect.
All you have to do is notice those signs and pick the sincere ones.
Does He Show Signs He Misses You?
One of the most important signs your ex boyfriend wants you back is that he shows you he misses you. If there’s one thing I know about men it’s that once they fall in love, it takes a lot to get them out of love. If you’re the woman he loved, then he’s probably still pining for you.
After all, you are quite the catch and he knows it!
Sometimes the signs that he still loves you can be quite clear. There are some men who are thrilled to just tell you up front that they love and miss you and can’t live without you.
It takes a lot of courage to be that kind of man. For the most part, however, men aren’t nearly that open about their feelings and you have to sort through the signs and messages to really figure out what he’s feeling.
Or you can give them a little nudge and make him realize what he’s missing out.
Those that do express their affection are the ones worth a second chance.
3 Surefire Signs He’s Not Over You Yet
If you’re anything like me, then the opposite sex can seem really confusing. They don’t want to care about you, but they do care, then they feel weird about falling in love so they end it, only to feel miserable without you and want you back…but not want to tell you they want you back!
To be fair, they’re simply just being men. Nothing wrong with that.
It’s usually our fault that we fail to understand what men want and understand their feelings.
He could be telling you that he loves you (which could be true) but he’s not ready to get back together. Perhaps he genuinely misses you, but not the relationship. Trust me, he’s not even sure how he really feels or what he wants.
The key here is to acknowledge these positive signs to motivate yourself that there’s hope in a second chance. And you’re willing to do what it takes to make it work.
Not to worry. I have gathered three of the most surefire signs that you can depend on your ex not going anywhere.
1. He Calls To Check On You
Men have a difficult time showing a woman they care, it’s a fact. I happen to think it’s because most guys grow up being told they’re not supposed to express their feelings, so when they do feel something they have no idea what to do.
This is especially true for any ex who’s looking to get back together.
One thing is for certain, however. If your ex calls to check on you or ask how your day was, he misses you. I’ve never known a man to call up an ex girlfriend just to see if she’s okay unless he’s really thinking of her and missing her. Checking on you is a sure sign he’s thinking of you.
Trust me, he’s working on an angle to get back into your life!
This is a good sign.
Men who feel heartbroken and jaded will not want to hang out with you, and they certainly won’t want to know what you’re up to. Most of all, men who are over you don’t care what happens to you.
If he’s calling to check on you, then he definitely still cares about you!
Here’s what you do:
Let him know that you’re doing fine, but give him a hint that he’s on your mind. For example, you can say something like
“Yes, I’m doing okay, thank you. Still, I do miss our morning conversations, you always made me smile.”
That lets him know that you’re at least not completely over him and he might still have a chance. It also doesn’t put you in a position of pursuing him. A little hint like that will really make him remember your good times together.
2. His Friends Have Had Enough of His Misery
Have you ever bumped into your ex’s friend and been told, “Yeah, my man is miserable without you”? If so, then you needn’t ask yourself if he has feelings for you.
Chances are he still does.
The only time a man would even dream of opening up to his buddies about his feelings is if he is in absolute devastation. If your ex’s friends tell you he’s miserable without you, then you can guarantee that he’s still not over you.
Great sign for you. Bad for his buddies who have to hear him hurting.
You have to understand a guy’s point of view here. Rarely do men open up their feelings to other men, unless it’s something really important.
If your ex’s friends tell you that he’s been driving them crazy since your split, then you know he wants you back!
So what do you do?
You have to play the chase game this time. What you do is make a “coincidental” appearance somewhere you know he’ll be. Does he go to a specific gym certain days of the week, or does he play basketball in the park with his friends on the weekends? If so, then make sure he sees you there. When he sees you (looking amazing, of course), smile and compliment him on something.
It’s as easy as “Wow, it’s nice to see you, you look great, by the way!” and smile pleasantly. Look happy to see him and happy with life, leave it open for him to contact you.
3. He Just Happens To Be At Your Favorite Hang Out Place
Is there a place you go on a regular basis that everyone knows they’ll see you at? Maybe you have a favorite coffee spot or you really love to spend your afternoons on a specific park bench? Now let me ask you this, did you introduce your ex to this special place of yours?
If the answer to those is a resounding “YES!” and you see your ex at your favorite place on a regular basis, he misses you. This is especially true if he looks miserable and forlorn when he sees you.
This is a good sign.
Men who recently had their heart broken do not intentionally go to places they could see the woman who broke their heart. If he’s hanging out in the places you introduced him to, then you can be assured that he wants give the relationship another go.
The next move is yours.
Get his attention by offering him a seat at your table, or invite him into a conversation where you make room for him to sit and be comfortable with you. Friendly and lighthearted conversation is the way to go here.
Do You Want To Get Back Together?
Now that you know how to tell if your ex still wants you back, or if he still loves you, it’s time to ask yourself the most important question of all: Do you want him back?
When we end a relationship there’s usually a very specific reason for it. It’s almost never really as simple as “it just didn’t work out”, there’s always some reason your ex is an “ex”.
Dig deep into your heart and find out the real reason you two broke up. Is it something you can forgive, or are you part of the problem? If so, are you willing to change yourself for the sake of being a better partner?
We all make mistakes and we all deserve to be forgiven. If your former flame is showing genuine signs he wants to give things a second chance, it might be worth getting back together.
Ultimately, it’s up to you to decide if you want to make the next move.
Once you realize your ex wants you back, and when you see that he still cares about you or still loves you then it’s up to you to make the next move.
Sometimes, we don’t want our ex back. I know there are probably only two ex’s I would ever consider taking back for even a moment. Of those two ex’s, however, I would definitely be willing to give it another try. So ask yourself this, should I respond?
If you’re getting a strong sense that your ex wants you back, but he hasn’t actually said so, then you can test the waters a little by texting him first to see how he reacts. You don’t want to come off as too needy (because it could push him away…even if he does miss you) but you don’t want to be too cold about it either.
Even if your guy is showing you all the signs he’s not over you, right now is a pivotal time and you have to make the right move if you want him back.
p.s. The minute you’re positive that your ex is not over you, you need to find a way to connect with you again on a deeper level.