So you received a text message from your ex-boyfriend. Out of nowhere, you get a message that stops your heart and makes you standstill. It’s been a long time since you’ve thought about your ex and your previous relationship with him.
What do you do when you receive texts from exes?
Should you respond or delete it and move on with your life? What are your ex’s intentions? It’s incredible how one text message can throw you off and make your mind race through a million unsolicited questions.
If you’re spiralling, you need to get ahold of yourself. Please don’t make too much of it and allow it to distract from your daily life.
For starters, if it is a rude text or something that implies sexual activity, then simply delete the message. Or you can come up with something witty and reply to shut your ex-boyfriend for good.
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This depends on the context of the text. But in general, your ex will text you when he’s missing you. Whether it’s because of loneliness or he’s ignoring you, your ex-boyfriend will not randomly send a text for no reason. But your ex might be the same immature person to mess with your head.
And if he does, just ignore it and be the better person.
Another reason why your ex will text you is that he’s checking up on you. He’s curious about your well-being and, deep down, wants to know if you’re dating. And if you are dating, your ex might hope it’s a rebound relationship if he’s thinking about getting back together. So you can’t blame him for wanting to know if you’re single again. Your ex might be evaluating whether it’s worth pursuing you.
If your ex-boyfriend initiates contact asking how you are doing, then it’s clear that he still cares about you. Not only does the choice of words matter, but it’s essential to check the tone of the text.
Some texts will be casual and make you reminisce normal times like you two are in a long-term relationship. If that’s the case, it’s up to you whether you want to string your ex along and sees how it plays out. But there’s a chance that your ex is genuinely worried about you, and it’s only that he’s trying to get back into your good graces. If it’s the latter, don’t be afraid to give him a call and let him know you’re moving on with your life.
If he texts you every day, at least twice a day, asking if you’re okay, then you can assume he has lingering feelings for you. But if he texts no more than once a week, then you should move on and forget about him. Keep in mind, an ex might help you find happiness later down the road. But you should always keep your morals and values in mind and never be afraid to reject a guy just because he was an ex.
In most cases, exes text you out of nowhere because they’re lonely and feeling some pain. They’re not over you, and hope a quick response from you will give them some instant relief. Some can be the all-too-familiar texts asking for sexual favors, while others can be desperate texts that demand an answer to help them move on. And if you don’t understand why your ex sends you a text that is odd or rude, then maybe you should ask him why he’s texting you. Please don’t feel like you owe him explanations for his texts.
But don’t also think that an ex is trying to get back together with you simply because he’s lonely and messed up in the head. He might use it as an excuse to get an answer, or on occasion, he might be attracted to the idea of getting back together with you on the rebound. But it’s always best to assume the worst and assume your ex is doing it because he still has feelings for you. And if you decide to call him, don’t ask for explanations or feel guilty about his texts.
And never get back together with an ex that has a problem with boundaries.
If you’re dating an insecure person, then you need to know how to deal with it.
One of the most common reasons guys will randomly text you is that they’re happy and want to share their joy with you. They’re so glad and want to let you know it, but also show that they still love and care about you. And if he’s doing it because he’s lonely or desperate, don’t feel guilty about rejecting him.
If he sends you a long text full of compliments and words of kindness, then let him know how much it means to you.
But if your ex is the type of person who randomly texts you and expects a reply, then you can’t be friends with him anymore because he’s not the kind of guy to take nothing for an answer. And that’s why you need to end things once and for all. Some guys will call you sometimes and expect you to respond. They will text you occasionally and expect a text back. If this happens, don’t feel like you need to reply, but also don’t send one back either. Don’t feel bad about not responding.
It doesn’t matter how much your ex wants to get back together with you or how much he misses you, or even whether he’s depressed about his rejection. He just needs to understand that it’s over and move on with his life.
If you do not want to get strung into a conversation with your ex, the best way is to ignore the ex and delete it. Don’t think about a comeback or the reasons your ex is contacting you. Simple delete it and move on with your life.
If you want to go along with the text and see where it could take you:
- Send a short reply.
- Let your ex-boyfriend lead the conversation and wait a few days to reply.
- Don’t text a lot in a row, and don’t say anything inappropriate.
And if you want to keep in touch with your ex, then expect to have a conversation that doesn’t pertain to your relationship or when you two were together. Make sure the conversation is about something else and unrelated to your past. If you’re going out of your way to being cordial, then hang out with him when he’s around his friends. That way, he won’t try anything with you.
When you were together, you once shared your life with your ex. Now that it’s over, he still wants to know about what’s going on with you. He might be thinking about getting back together or is genuinely concerned about your well-being. Sometimes, he feels worried about you because he misses your friendship or misses your companionship. Maybe when they’re out without someone to talk to, they’re not happy. Unfortunately, if you two are close friends, your ex might be jealous of your new boyfriend or girlfriend.
If you aren’t together anymore, then don’t feel bad for not contacting him. If he’s got a problem with it, then that’s his fault. Don’t let him pressure you into doing something that makes you uncomfortable. And also, don’t threaten him or get mean with him because that won’t get either of you anywhere. He’s not worth it.
If he keeps calling you or texting you, let him know that you don’t want to hear from him. Tell him that your relationship is now over, and that’s the end of it. Don’t be upset if he gets upset and then feels terrible about what he did and starts to apologize and beg you for forgiveness because all of this just shows his immaturity and lack of maturity. It doesn’t change anything.
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